What’s being said about us so far:

Excellent blog.” _ Reddit’s SuicideWatch resources page.

We’re glad AAS is spotlighting this important conversation. The posts can be heavy, but for inspirational, even life-changing reading, this new blog is worth browsing.” _ To Write Love on Her Arms

Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for everything you’re doing here. I am a suicide attempt survivor. Just typing that fills me with the stigma that others so often cast upon us. … This blog is a breakthrough, and its existence fills me with hope and optimism. By sharing our stories, perhaps we can heal more effectively, communicate more passionately, and stop feeling so alone in the aftermath of our suicide attempts.” _ Justin Dunkle, in a comment

The collective nature of this coming-out – potentially large numbers of kindred spirits as well as potentially huge numbers of struggling individuals desperate for a ray of hope – adds up to a potential bonanza of therapeutic benefit that has heretofore not existed. Translated, this means many lives potentially saved.” _ Thomas Ellis, director of psychology, The Menninger Clinic

If you want to keep up with the cutting edge of suicide prevention, this is truly it.” _ Sandra Kiume, PsychCentral contributor and attempt survivor

After 10+ years working in this field, and in particular calling for greater recognition of the survivor voice, this blog from AAS represents for me the most significant development in suicidology that I’ve witnessed. The AAS is very influential globally, so if we can make a success of this blog, it is likely that other organisations around the world might follow.” _ David Webb, suicidologist and attempt survivor

I read this because I was worried about my own daughter. Your experience helped me see things differently. I would do anything for her but I just don’t always know how to create a positive shift. You helped me see another way. … Thank you!!!” _ Kate, in a comment

Fortunately, our understanding of suicidal behavior is slowly beginning to change.” _ Salon

“… several new initiatives transforming the nation’s suicide prevention community … In January, the American Association of Suicidology launched a website called ‘What Happens Now?’ — described as the first sustained effort by a national organization to engage survivors in a public forum. … In one of the latest posts, the founder of a respite home for suicidal people writes powerfully about her own suicide attempt …” _ The Associated Press

I am acutely aware that the voices of people who have thought about suicide and possibly attempted suicide have been largely absent from public conversations about suicide and what should be done about it. … The only people who can be saved are the ones that are still alive. The ones thinking about suicide right now. The ones who have made attempts and lived to tell about it. They know what hurts, and they know what helps. They need a voice. WE need a voice.” _ Karen Butler Easter, president, National Association of Crisis Center Directors

Many suicide attempt survivors have bravely shared their stories in support of suicide prevention and others who may be at risk. Yet the participation of suicide attempt survivors is not yet as overt or as organized as that of persons who have survived the loss of loved ones. However, this is starting to change. Two examples of efforts to provide forums for survivors of suicide attempts are Live Through This and What Happens Now? … We need to expand efforts to encourage and support attempt survivors in bringing their expertise to the struggle against suicide.” _ Jerry Reed, director, Suicide Prevention Resource Center

I find that what you’re doing here is amazing. I think it’ll help so many people who are suffering in silence. I know that with my attempt, nobody expected it. … Seeing this blog, knowing that someone cared enough to talk about it, that’s a great thing to see. I hope people will keep coming forward. I hope things will keep getting better.” _ Laura, a reader, through our Contact Us page

9 Comments Join the Conversation

  1. I am a survivor of suicide. I am looking for a direction to face that is forward and away from death. Death seeps in at the most unexpected times. Most of my family doesn’t see it or want to see it.I am glad to have found this web site.I want to hear from other survivors how they have survived and found life and purpose. Sincerly , Susan


    • Susan,
      I wish that there was a single simple answer, but this doesn’t seem to be the case with all people, whether male or female although statistics tend to show women
      seem to experience depression more than men. I think too that women may tend to be more vulnerable, So try and document those factors may be the cause or contribute to your depression. Is the depression related to some key event, or is there a hormonal factor? While I was younger in my 20s, there were books like “Feeling Good” by David Burns that was helpful to me in looking at situations differently. As time went on, depression became more severe, and eventually had to be put on medication and receive outpatient hospitalization. I was the only man with 5 women in a hospital therapy group. So I did observe viewpoints from a woman’s perspective on a variety of woman’s issues from everything from spousal/child abuse and beatings, bullying, PMDD, postpartum depression, to relationship issues. So if your depression has reached the point where you just can’t function and interfering with family and job, see your primary care physician and ask for referal to a psychiatrist. Here again, there is no single solution for all people in terms of medication. It took me about 3 weeks before the medicine seemed to have some effect. These medications also have negative side effects (especially for men). So you may need to be put on one or more medications dependent upon the nature of your situation. I hope this helps.


  2. I am a survivor of several suicide attempts, actively suicidal as an adult several times, and thoughts of suicide have waxed and waned over most of my life. In 2006, I put together an educational brochure on suicide prevention and have been distributing them to libraries in Illinois, Iowa, Indiana, and Wisconsin. This, in part, keeps me here.


  3. I like to hear from people that how attempting suicide has changed their perspective of life and death. when I talk to persons that have never attempted it is to give them the example about the first time you attempt to dive into a pool of water and how incredibly scary it seems and that when you have gone that far with the ultimate of fear to the unknown of actually dying how that is something you cannot come back from in sense of innocence. Its the only way to explain how you look at life once you have dived into the realm of taking your life. I have never spoke to someone that actually tried to kill themselves but for some reason it did not happen. Not to make this in anyway glamorous is that when I was in the process of death itself and it stopped is that change. I don’t think any trained doctor etc,, could even relate to the special difference that comes of it. I am looking to see if someone out there feels as I do that even though I no longer want to kill myself its the difference that I am no longer afraid of dying as I know what it is like to be there. It is the aspect of being alive but having dived into that darn pool and how to live with this experience and to take from it a positive and learn from it attitude. How do you deal with it when no one unless they came from the brink of death can relate. How do you deal with coming back when no one you know relates to it, That is what I am looking for is persons that have dived,


    • Perspective; an interesting word; since it all depends upon what side of that line in the sand you stand. I have attempted suicide, more than once, and obviously, I have failed every time. It is hard to be positive when I view having failed equates to “FAILURE”. It is even harder when for the previous 3 years I seemed to have been relatively stable. About 3 or 4 months ago, I just seemed to lose it. Work was suffering, people commenting upon my attitude; just so angry, or breaking into tears at the slightest question of my ability to do my work. Suicidal thoughts and potential plans seemed to be constantly crowding my mind. I couldn’t talk to anyone, since I have been involuntarily committed before, I wasn’t about to travel that road again. I tried to talk to a former therapist with whom has been a major part of my still being alive, and yet even with him I wasn’t able to disclose how awful I felt. He could tell I was struggling, yet without my actual voicing a “threat of self-harm” I left his office. I haven’t been back, and that was about a month ago. Has much changed? not really, I have managed to remove myself from most interaction with others at work, and family members. Sometimes, silence is the best thing for my being able to continue. Fear of dying, that isn’t what keeps me from attempting once again, rather it is “FEAR OF FAILING”.


    • Hi I am attempt survivor. Before the event i was looking for help from professionals, I trusted my councillor &it was my last hope until they didn’t turn up for a session&then never came back. I realised that was not genuine help. I’ve tried to sort out myself, but one day i had enough &started planning my escape from life. It was planned to the smallest detail&as much as I wanted &ISO many deep scars, after long 12hrs I realised it will not happen as much as I try. I was found &so called saved however I was so far from being saved.
      I now realised that I have no fare of death. &as a result I became more impatient with myself&other people & more demanding from everyone around me. I need to be told every day that I’m loved &im doing good job. I doubt myself in everything I do although I’ve got brilliant career &achieved a lot since. Little comment from some stranger,especially if they r raising their voice can send me back to dark place very quick. I know exactly what I want for my loved ones but after 3 years I stilldon’t know what I want. If I stop from running &doing things for others I find myself lost…


  4. I’m glad you guys are doing this work. I was suicidal long before the internet and I imagine good information is much easier to come by today, including support groups. I can also relate to those afraid to “come out”. I’m publishing my memoir about my suicidal years under a pseudonym because I’m certain it would cause problems with my programming career. I have a family and can’t take the risk but it bugs me to do it that way.


  5. I enjoy venting online now, because then no one can see you, it might be wrong to use this alone, but there are times when i trust friends at my college and i share about my previous attempts, my background, and surely i was mistaken. Rather than being shunned away like i was in highschool, people accept it, and its rather shocking to hear some even say, “im a survivor too, or i know all about that, i have sisters, brothers, cousins, etc..” my teacher loves what i write, and sadly i wont be able to write about the events in my life, but this is a good way too. I appreciate support groups, cites, and people who understand and know what to say and what not to say, I thank you from the bottom of my heart.


  6. I want to thank this website as well because it has really been a struggle for me these last few months after my suicide attempt. I felt alone before but occasionally now I feel even more alone because not many people around me understand. Some days are better than others but things like this where I know that other people like me are out there helps tremendously. So thank you sincerely.


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